So, we all know the body has a language of its own. Great posture? Respectable. Ankles crossed? You’re closing me off, therefore I hate you.
But we’re in college: backpack straps cover slouched shoulders, legs are open far more than they should be, fingers and arms designed to mold into letters of the Greek alphabet — it’s an undecipherable dialect.
So, I think it’s fair to disregard the just-above mentioned — it makes no sense nor is it relevant information. However, when it comes to body language during weekend nights (something that actually matters), this can be completely foreign to those not in the know. Pull this reference guide out the next time you can’t read his/her signals.
Gents, if she:
— touches your flow, prepare for a treat. Props on growing your hair out successfully. But, aside from the fact that she admires it, she’s probably interested. Keep this chick around if you are, too — and even if you aren’t because don’t flatter yourself thinking there’s more where this came from.
— grabs your shoulder, she would at least like to be your friend or thinks you are a cool dude. She’s also probably trying to tell you something, so listen up.
— leans back into a fridge at a house party, this means … nothing. But wait, you think, she’s leaning away from me, that’s bad! But her hips are towards me, so she must want me sexually? Wrong. She’s just drunk.
Ladies, if he:
— latches onto your hips and it’s not a dance party … there’s nothing wrong with a little bump and grind.
— puts his arm around your shoulder, he’ll probably offer you a drink, too, or at least buddy up to you. Take this opportunity to get a self-esteem boost and mooch away.
— doesn’t react to your physical contact, boot him. You’re an independent woman and don’t need some loser who can’t appreciate you.