Dear Nat: There’s this girl I’m really into, and we’re both going to this Halloween bash. I want to make my move that night, and I need a few tips so I won’t scare her away!
— Wants Action on Halloween
Dear Wants Action: Well, I can’t guarantee she won’t be scared away. She might encounter a fake bloody corpse that night and get spooked — and it would have nothing to do with you!
In order to woo this chick properly, I’d start off with a hot costume. Stay away from the pumpkin, clown and jester outfits. Go for something suave, like a John Travolta look, complete with tight pants, a silky shirt and gelled hair. Don’t forget to spritz on some enticing cologne — the sense of smell is very important when it comes to attraction.
At the party, try suggesting some “get in the mood” activities. Remember that game where you pass an orange around a circle of people with your neck? It’s perfect for encouraging lots of flesh-to-flesh contact. So grab a round piece of fruit and “neck” with your girl — racy thoughts are sure to follow. Dancing on Halloween is another great way to get someone’s attention. Since people are dressed up, they tend to take on traits of different characters and loosen up on the dance floor. Take this opportunity to show off your flirtatious moves next to her, and there’s no doubt she’ll boogie on back.
Aside from letting you in on the seasonal advantages, I think you could use some everyday dating advice. When it comes to parties, it’s possible to start a relationship with a girl you’ve just met if you don’t come off as super-sleazy. Aim to act down to earth, sweet and caring, as well as talkative and flirty. If you keep up a consistent interest — but not a desperate interest — she won’t be frightened away. Then she can enjoy all the thrills you provide for her long after All Hallow’s Eve has ended — no witchcraft needed.
Dear Nat: My boyfriend and I are planning on having sex for the first time, and I’m a little nervous about it. What can I do to make the experience run comfortably and smoothly?
— First Time Jitters
Dear First Time: Honey, the first time is hardly comfortable (in fact, it’s hardly painless). And smoothly? Maybe a little K-Y Jelly can help with that.
First of all, I hope your “little” amount of nervousness isn’t actually a “big” amount. Because if it is, “losing it” may not be the best thing right now. Be sure your relationship is stable enough so that sex will only enhance things, not complicate them.
One thing that is essential — and sure to bring you comfort — is to know you are protected from pregnancy and disease. Please take advantage of what the University Health Center has to offer. The Health Center offers contraceptives free of charge, plus it’s confidential. A wise choice to stay baby- and STD-free is to start taking birth control pills and to use a condom every time you have sex.
As far as technique goes, I’m not about to print anything graphic in a public newspaper (and I don’t want to horrify my mom or my grandma, who love reading my column), so you can look at Cosmopolitan for that. If you truly feel strong love and attraction for this boy, you should be able to act on your feelings and let the sex flow naturally. Don’t expect any explosive orgasms the first time around, and don’t fret if afterwards you suddenly see sex as overrated. Sex is an acquired taste that gets better with time, so look at this first shot as a bonding experience.
One last thought: If you live in the dorms, try not to moan
too loudly surrounded by those paper-thin walls — unless you want a rousing round of applause coming from the hallway.
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