I am the epitome of what the self-proclaimed tolerant elements of society cannot accept. I am a white heterosexual male who is Christian and anti-abortion. I am 23 years old and my 20-year-old wife is four months pregnant. My friends and family think that I am more conservative than Rush Limbaugh and Newt Gingrich combined.
My cultural paradigm is derived from a heritage of pioneers that trekked across the plains to help settle the Western states. My way of life is embodied in my very soul. I make no apologies for my culture, which promotes faith in God and patriotism for my country.
I only ask that my culture be tolerated, not accepted. And I reserve the right to observe the same policy with regard to others’ cultures and belief systems. I believe, as our forefathers taught, that we are all endowed by our Creator with certain unalienable rights, among which are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Regardless of belief or culture, all humankind deserves this respect. And I have no ambition or desire to act otherwise.
However, I do not believe that implies we must accept each other’s cultures or beliefs. The very act would necessitate relinquishing a portion of our beliefs. I make this point in reflection of “National Coming Out Day.”
As human beings, all people regardless of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, etc. deserve respect and tolerance. However, that does not imply acceptance of practices that offend or contradict cultural values. I do not have to accept “alternative” lifestyles as a viable alternative. The very act of accepting homosexuality or lesbianism as a viable alternative would negate very important and core beliefs of my faith. The act of accepting my theological discourse would negate the belief in “alternative” lifestyles for those that practice them.
Just as people of “alternative” and “diverse” lifestyles do not wish laws and societal norms that impose undue pressure on their cultural belief system, neither do I. So when “coming out,” ensure that you are not demanding acceptance. To do so would be intolerant of my way of life, and that is unacceptable.