Sex & Relationships

Pillow Talk: My best friends spend more time with their boyfriends than with me. What should I do?

By on Wednesday, Jan. 7 at 10:37 pm.

Dear Katherine, I hardly ever get to see or talk to some of my best friends since they started becoming more interested in their boyfriends. This keeps happening again and again. Should I be jealous? Is this petty? At what point do I take it personally? Sincerely, Left Behind Dear Left Behind, What you’re feeling […]

Pillow Talk: I have a right to go topless, too: Why we should “free the nipple”

By on Sunday, Dec. 21 at 3:31 pm.

Just this September, I went topless  — in public — for the first time. Laying on a towel by the river in Eugene, I had untied my bikini top. I felt free. Confident. Empowered. Luckily, I live in Oregon — where it’s legal for a woman to be topless in public. If I’d been in, say, Washington […]

Life as an asexual in a hypersexual culture: “Invisibility is probably the hardest part”

By on Thursday, Dec. 4 at 11:13 pm.

Lillian Huebner forgets where they first heard the word. It might have been while reading a book. Or scrolling through Tumblr accounts. What the 20-year-old University of Oregon sophomore does remember is this: Huebner was 18, living at home in rural Missouri, when they read the word and felt something unlike anything they had experienced before: Relief. Excitement. Curiosity. Finally, […]

Think Eugene needs a gay bar? You might be in luck.

By on Sunday, Nov. 23 at 10:38 pm.

When John O’Malley first moved to Eugene from New York City, he was shocked. It wasn’t the city’s people, its politics or its dampness. It was its nightlife: Eugene didn’t have a gay bar. Then O’Malley thought: forget a gay bar. Eugene didn’t even have a place where LGBTQ-identifed people could meet. At least one that […]

Pillow Talk: What do I get for her besides flowers?

By on Thursday, Nov. 20 at 12:27 pm.

Dear Katherine, What are some simple “just because” gestures I make besides giving her flowers? Sincerely, Lover’s Block Dear Lover’s Block, Few things compare to the gestures you’re talking about. The kind that make you realize: This person was thinking of me and I didn’t even know it. It won’t be easy to give you […]

Pillow Talk: How do I talk to men?

By on Thursday, Nov. 13 at 12:40 pm.

Dear Katherine, I am demonstrably socially awkward. HOW DO I TALK TO MEN!?!?! Sincerely, Awk. Dear Awk., In hopes of finding the magical how-to-talk-to-men-formula, I searched the world of Google. The first result brought up an article from Women’s Health Magazine titled, fittingly, “How to Talk to a Man.” According to those folks, it’s simple: just dumb […]

Pillow Talk: To spank or not to spank?

By on Tuesday, Nov. 4 at 4:26 pm.

Dear Katherine, How long should you wait before you spank your girlfriend during sex? Sincerely, Anxious Dear Anxious, I wish relationships were that predictable and straightforward. If they were, I could answer your question with a mere few words — something like “after two months, get the whip out.” But alas, it doesn’t work that way. And […]

The generation that is less likely to be married

By on Thursday, Oct. 16 at 11:57 am.

Read up on Milennials and you’ll learn a few things: We’re lazy, over-confident and coddled, according to TIME. We’re going to have a hard time finding work out of college. We’re tech obsessed, TV obsessed. We are the first generation to have the majority of its members support same-sex marriage and the most racially diverse. […]

Pillow Talk: Getting over the fear of communication

By on Wednesday, Oct. 8 at 10:04 pm.

Dear Katherine, My significant other and I aren’t very confrontational. When there’s something that bothers either of us, things are mostly disregarded. How do I increase the communication between us? Sincerely, Scared to Confront   Dear Scared, We can probably learn a lot from each other. That’s because while you have trouble opening your mouth, I have […]

Fetishization of women of color impacts media and society

By on Sunday, Aug. 10 at 3:10 pm.

There’s a thin line between having a preference and fetishizing in the dating world — women of color know this all too well. Fetishization is the process where certain physical traits of women of color become objectified and hyper-sexualized to fit the dominant stereotypes. Some stereotypes include being submissive, sexually inhibited and sexually available. Women […]

A different form of racism on college campuses: Micro-aggressions

By on Monday, Jul. 28 at 3:20 pm.

An annoyed student walks away after being called “sexy” solely based on the fact that she is multi-ethnic. An Asian-American student rolls his eyes after being asked about his ethnic origin for the umpteenth time. A black student groans after being told, “You’re pretty for a dark-skinned girl.” These comments reflect a form of racism: […]

Marrone: What the UC Santa Barbara shootings tell us about the consequences of misogyny, and why we should care

By on Sunday, May. 25 at 10:29 pm.

On Friday night, six people were killed near the University of California at Santa Barbara in a drive-by shooting. The gunman’s reasons for doing so are no mystery: He wrote a manifesto and posted videos online hours and days before the shooting detailing the rage he felt. He wanted sex and attention from “hot, blonde girls” who didn’t want […]

‘America the Beautiful 3′ highlights problems with early exposure to a sex-saturated society

By on Friday, May. 23 at 12:59 pm.

“America the Beautiful,” a documentary series directed by Darryl Roberts, forces us desensitized members of society to pull back for a minute and examine the severe problems with the culture of beauty that we’ve established today. The third installment of the series, called “Sexualization of our Youth,” was screened at the UO May 22, an event that […]