Sex & Relationships

Pillow Talk: My best friends spend more time with their boyfriends than with me. What should I do?

By on Wednesday, Jan. 7 at 10:37 pm.

Dear Katherine, I hardly ever get to see or talk to some of my best friends since they started becoming more interested in their boyfriends. This keeps happening again and again. Should I be jealous? Is this petty? At what point do I take it personally? Sincerely, Left Behind Dear Left Behind, What you’re feeling […]

Pillow Talk: I have a right to go topless, too: Why we should “free the nipple”

By on Sunday, Dec. 21 at 3:31 pm.

Just this September, I went topless  — in public — for the first time. Laying on a towel by the river in Eugene, I had untied my bikini top. I felt free. Confident. Empowered. Luckily, I live in Oregon — where it’s legal for a woman to be topless in public. If I’d been in, say, Washington […]

Life as an asexual in a hypersexual culture: “Invisibility is probably the hardest part”

By on Thursday, Dec. 4 at 11:13 pm.

Lillian Huebner forgets where they first heard the word. It might have been while reading a book. Or scrolling through Tumblr accounts. What the 20-year-old University of Oregon sophomore does remember is this: Huebner was 18, living at home in rural Missouri, when they read the word and felt something unlike anything they had experienced before: Relief. Excitement. Curiosity. Finally, […]

Think Eugene needs a gay bar? You might be in luck.

By on Sunday, Nov. 23 at 10:38 pm.

When John O’Malley first moved to Eugene from New York City, he was shocked. It wasn’t the city’s people, its politics or its dampness. It was its nightlife: Eugene didn’t have a gay bar. Then O’Malley thought: forget a gay bar. Eugene didn’t even have a place where LGBTQ-identifed people could meet. At least one that […]

Pillow Talk: What do I get for her besides flowers?

By on Thursday, Nov. 20 at 12:27 pm.

Dear Katherine, What are some simple “just because” gestures I make besides giving her flowers? Sincerely, Lover’s Block Dear Lover’s Block, Few things compare to the gestures you’re talking about. The kind that make you realize: This person was thinking of me and I didn’t even know it. It won’t be easy to give you […]

Pillow Talk: How do I talk to men?

By on Thursday, Nov. 13 at 12:40 pm.

Dear Katherine, I am demonstrably socially awkward. HOW DO I TALK TO MEN!?!?! Sincerely, Awk. Dear Awk., In hopes of finding the magical how-to-talk-to-men-formula, I searched the world of Google. The first result brought up an article from Women’s Health Magazine titled, fittingly, “How to Talk to a Man.” According to those folks, it’s simple: just dumb […]

Pillow Talk: To spank or not to spank?

By on Tuesday, Nov. 4 at 4:26 pm.

Dear Katherine, How long should you wait before you spank your girlfriend during sex? Sincerely, Anxious Dear Anxious, I wish relationships were that predictable and straightforward. If they were, I could answer your question with a mere few words — something like “after two months, get the whip out.” But alas, it doesn’t work that way. And […]

The generation that is less likely to be married

By on Thursday, Oct. 16 at 11:57 am.

Read up on Milennials and you’ll learn a few things: We’re lazy, over-confident and coddled, according to TIME. We’re going to have a hard time finding work out of college. We’re tech obsessed, TV obsessed. We are the first generation to have the majority of its members support same-sex marriage and the most racially diverse. […]

Pillow Talk: Getting over the fear of communication

By on Wednesday, Oct. 8 at 10:04 pm.

Dear Katherine, My significant other and I aren’t very confrontational. When there’s something that bothers either of us, things are mostly disregarded. How do I increase the communication between us? Sincerely, Scared to Confront   Dear Scared, We can probably learn a lot from each other. That’s because while you have trouble opening your mouth, I have […]

Fetishization of women of color impacts media and society

By on Sunday, Aug. 10 at 3:10 pm.

There’s a thin line between having a preference and fetishizing in the dating world — women of color know this all too well. Fetishization is the process where certain physical traits of women of color become objectified and hyper-sexualized to fit the dominant stereotypes. Some stereotypes include being submissive, sexually inhibited and sexually available. Women […]

A different form of racism on college campuses: Micro-aggressions

By on Monday, Jul. 28 at 3:20 pm.

An annoyed student walks away after being called “sexy” solely based on the fact that she is multi-ethnic. An Asian-American student rolls his eyes after being asked about his ethnic origin for the umpteenth time. A black student groans after being told, “You’re pretty for a dark-skinned girl.” These comments reflect a form of racism: […]

Marrone: What the UC Santa Barbara shootings tell us about the consequences of misogyny, and why we should care

By on Sunday, May. 25 at 10:29 pm.

On Friday night, six people were killed near the University of California at Santa Barbara in a drive-by shooting. The gunman’s reasons for doing so are no mystery: He wrote a manifesto and posted videos online hours and days before the shooting detailing the rage he felt. He wanted sex and attention from “hot, blonde girls” who didn’t want […]